I wish to thank Tracey for this blog post. She prompted me to blog about it.
She asked me, “Hey Michelle, How did you come to open your first escort business? What was your thought process behind it?”
So here is my answer to everyone…
I knew almost from the age of 8 or 9 that I wanted to own my own escort agency one day. I was too young to realize what it was all about, but a movie on TV got me hooked. I think it was more of a brothel type setting if memory serves me.
I didn’t remember my comment until a couple of years after I was no longer operating my 2nd agency, which was around 1997.
Fast forward from age 8 or 9 to 1988, I was sick & tired of going to the club & dancing, then going home with a guy (or bringing him home);Â him sleeping with me & the next day he was GONE. No respect whatsoever, I was just being used for sex.
I started to get really pissed off at men & was even considering becoming a lesbian at that time LOL (nothing wrong with being gay, I’m just laughing because of how pissed off I was).
I had already found out what an escort agency was back in 1984 when I was 18 & looking for a job.
At that time I wasn’t prepared to become an escort, but once 1988 rolled around, I said “screw it”, I’m taking the plunge.
I was a VERY ambitious young woman who wanted to be very successful & make a TON of money, & I had always wanted to own my own business in the entertainment industry.
So I found an escort agency hiring in the local paper & got hired almost immediately.
I decided to quit my day job because there was no way I could work full time 9-5 & then work at night as an escort, it was just too much.
I tried being an escort, but within a month I realized I just wasn’t cut out to be one. It takes a very special person to be an escort.
While working at this escort service I would watch what was going on with the owners & support staff, & I realized they were mean people & a lot of the girls working as escorts weren’t being given a fair shot.
The hookerish types (usually girls who came from the streets or had a VERY LARGE mean streak) controlled the back room (meaning the girls) & intimidated them.
I have always had a soft spot for the underdog, so my heart went out to the escorts & I felt the desire to want to help them.
I also realized that an escort agency would technically be no different then running any other type of business & should be NO different then running a mainstream business (other then a few things here & there). I did find out later on it is a lot different then running a mainstream business, but I did merge the 2 concepts together.
In my head I was starting to mull this idea of opening up an escort service.
One of the drivers wanted to open his own escort agency, & asked me if I would do the phones for him.
I’m damm glad I went with my intuition & I turned him down. Something just didn’t seem right with him & later on he went on to try & close down my escort agency out of jealousy. I am not trying to brag, but other escort agencies often wanted to cut me out as their competition.
At the time I didn’t realize this driver wanted to pay me was peanuts, so all & all it was best I had turned him down.
Things didn’t go well with this escort service I was working with. As in typical escort industry fashion, 2 of the hookerish types didn’t like me standing up to them, so they eventually got me fired. LOL, yeh, can you believe getting fired from an escort agency of ALL things????
But like everything, everything happens for a reason.
From there I found another escort agency, & within 2-3 months I found someone to help train me on the phones & I opened my FIRST ever escort service. I was soooo EXCITED!!! I can still remember the feeling 🙂
As they say, “the rest is history“.
Of course I had to learn the hard way how to make the agency into a REAL business that was professional, ethical & run properly because there really was no such animal. I was the only escort agency that really cared about all aspects of running that business.
As you already know, I now help others to open their own professional ethical escort service.
So, I hope this gives you some insight into how I got into the escort industry & how I hope all you nice people out there help me in cleaning up the escort industry.
So here is my point of view on why pimp like people are running escort services.
Because, society is LETTING THEM.
The more society continues to be shameful of escort services & escorts, & ignores the fact that they exist & always will, the more criminal types will run the escort industry.
The results are always the same.
Any substance or service that society tries to make criminal, whether it was alcohol, weed/hash, etc. always continues to flourish, ESPECIALLY when you try to control people & tell them what to do with their lives.
Very few people like me have the balls to say “screw you”, I feel that I’m doing nothing wrong, & we go ahead anyway & make the best of it.
So, if you are one of those who judges others because you “want” to feel superior over others because of self shame, guilt or insecurity, take a good look in the mirror & take responsibility for your role in:
underage prostitution,
human trafficking,
slavery,
escort agency owners who force their escorts to sleep with them,
cops who blackmail the escort agency owners,
cops who blackmail escorts by forcing them to sleep with them,
cops who ignore it when escorts are beaten up, raped, or killed,
STDs transmitted because there is no protection for sex workers, or
escort service owners who sit by playing Russian Roulette because they can’t talk to the escorts about protection, etc.
Instead of ethical professional business people taking the reins & being proud to open an escort agency, they are ashamed, frightened & don’t want to take a chance that they will be closed down.
A lot of the law makers (certainly not all), media & police (to me they are bullies) continue to judge the escort industry while some see escorts on the side. This isn’t just hypocrisy, these are people with a lot of power to throw people in jail while they see escorts in their private lives, OR their personal beliefs are hidden, meaning they don’t really have a problem with escorts or escort agency owners.
Some of these people of power put on an act for society while their acions contradict what they say out in public because of the mask they wear.
For some I feel sorry for them, for others I say “STAND UP & live your life for yourself & your beliefs, not for the rest of the world because you live in fear.” Only you can judge yourself, no one has such power over you unless you give it to them, so really the ones we think have the power are usually just too scared to be “real”. I feel for them that they can’t be true to themselves.
We’ve seen this kind of hypocritical behavior in history of course, & it still goes on today…
a) women who are raped & then blammed for what men do to her b) gays who have to lie & hide all the while pretending to be straight
You may not agree that this is the same thing, but I see the huge similarities.
In order to help the escort industry, these people in power should be setting up new laws that have NOTHING to do with pimping. There should be clear laws that differentiate between pimps & escort service owners, & hookers & escorts. Escort serivces once & for all should be considered a business just like any other. You already see this in Australia, parts of Canada, Germany, Amsterdam, & parts of the UK is on its way.
Instead, the people who decide what’s important for society run around taking away perfectly good cops from their position of helping to solve violent crimes or crimes that hurt people, & they assign them to shutting down the open minded owners of escort agencies who are just business people, or they chase escorts who have chosen to live their lives as THEY see fit.
Then because the criminals use more covert seedy methods to run their businesses, they get away with continuing to run escort agencies, while the professional ethical business people are shut down because they wanted to run their escort service properly & they didn’t go underground.
This then puts escorts & the clients who see them in more danger because they are then forced to be involved with real criminals who may be violent, steal, blackmail, etc. I mean when you call up an escort agency, you have no way of knowing what kind of person is manning the company, right?
Do you think escorts or clients are ever going to stop just because you say so?
Who are you to tell others what to do with their lives?
People throw that “moral” word around very loosely pretending they have the right to control other people’s lives. They even try to use religion to hide behind & cause pain for others. (while this isn’t the only reason I don’t believe in religion & haven’t since the age of 12, it is one of THE main reasons I started to question religion even at that young age.)
You CAN’T control anyone but yourself! This is the Universal law.
The laws on the books when it comes to prostitution & pimps are archaic & most don’t even differentiate between a business person who runs an escort service, & a pimp who forces girls to work for him/her. In fact, there are no real laws for the escort industry, at least not in North America. These laws are soooo old, they go back to years when I was either a child, or not even born yet.
This whole abusive circle affectively helps escort agency owners who are sleazy to open up more escort services. Sleazy escort service owners who don’t really care about the escort industry, girls, or clients. They care only about money & using girls for their own personal gain.
While they may not be your average street “pimp”, they are very borderline.
Even now, some of the clients who see escorts are more sleazy, can be violent, have mental disorders, are drug addicts, alcoholics, stalkers, etc.
Why?
Because there aren’t many agency owners in place who will say NO, you are banned from my agency, your behavior isn’t tolerated.
Then what happens, is that escorts need customers – (they have to make money in order to make a living of course), & because the escort industry has been taking a beating in the past year or two, some escorts feel forced into seeing these criminal or dangerous types because the “normal” guy who wants to see an escort has gone underground. The nice customer either sees escorts less, or stops entirely to keep away from all the constant judgment, harassment or the stigma from society’s so called “moral” judgment.
The so called “powers that be” & religious fanatics are soooo proud of themselves, & in the end all they are doing is driving more criminals to run agencies. These types don’t usually have a problem breaking the law, they are usually already doing it in some other form like trafficking drugs, murder, extortion, etc. Then they may get into slavery – human trafficking.
The ignorance that if you just close down all the escort agencies, that “poof“, the escort industry will just disappear is very naive, & in my opinion, very dangerous.
Why?
Because most escorts start off working for an escort service.
The odd one goes right to working as an independent escort, but they are slim to none.
They need to build up their confidence in seeing clients, they need to learn the ropes, & some never want to be an independent escort because that takes a lot of hard work & a bit of a business head that not everyone has.
Then because there aren’t a lot of professional ethical escort services out there, a lot of escorts feel tied & end up working for the types of escort agencies I mentioned above.
The chances of them getting beaten or addicted to drugs or alchohol has now increased quite a bit since those agency owners won’t have any boundaries in place like a professional escort agency might.
The escorts need to feel secure that someone working in the office is protecting them. That was my goal when I ran my 2 escort agencies.
How can they feel this way if all they have to choose from are the “pimp” like escort agencies?
The bottom line is, if escort services were left alone to run a business like other businesses do & they were ONLY brought down if they committed other crimes like assault, fraud, kidnapping, coercion, etc., you would slowly start to see the escort industry clean itself up.
This certainly wouldn’t happen overnight, but because there wouldn’t be this constant fear in the escort industry, the law enforcement who really cares would start to get calls from both escort service owners, and escorts, divulging who the real criminals are.
We need new, fresh escort services that are run like how I ran my escort agency.
I protected ALL of my girls because that was my job.
I never forced a girl to work, & if I felt she wasn’t suitable to work as an escort, I would tell her to go home.
I treated all of my customers with respect.
I never judged them, & I never lied to them.
I was often told I was THE most professional escort agency in the city of Toronto which made me proud.
I was NEVER perfect & I had my faults, & I can tell you a lot of the stress I encountered was from sleazy criminal types.
The professional ethical types are the people you want running escort services.
I encourage anyone who cares about this industry not to give up, & not to let the bullies run your life for you.
If you want to be an entrepreneur who wishes to own an escort agency for all the right reasons, know that I applaud & support you.
We need more people like you running our escort services.
If you are an escort, know that I also support you.
Help me get rid of all the pimp style escort agencies out there who use & abuse escorts & the clients who see them.
Help me get rid of all the hookerish type escorts who don’t belong in the escort industry.
I will sign off on this post, but don’t worry, I will be back.
