Posts Tagged ‘religion’

Is Seeing an escort a bad thing?

Monday, July 5th, 2010

This question was asked on a site & the answer was soooo long, rather than spend hours trying to pare it down, I decided to just post it here & link to this blog post.

Question –

i wanna know why hiring an escort service is a bad thing?

Michelle’s Answer –

Your assumption is correct, there is nothing wrong with hiring an escort, so long as it doesn’t become your addiction AND doesn’t end up always replacing the human need for you to have real relationships with other people. Saying that though, some people just don’t have the time to have real relationships with other people. For example, there are men or women, who travel all the time & are never in a city longer than a day or two. They need companionship & therefore seeing escorts on a regular basis will help them fulfill that need.

The only other time I think it’s a negative thing, is if you become so addicted to seeing escorts that you end up going broke.

Hiring someone for companionship (it’s NOT just about sex contrary to most people’s opinion), is NOT wrong. It’s just that most people are very religious & think they know it all. They often spout nonsense they know nothing about even though they themselves often see escorts. (do what I say, not what I do). They are called hypocrites.

These religious people think that sex is only meant for procreational reasons.

I’ll never forget the time I went to see an older doctor when I was younger & he said that VERY thing to me & I was shocked that it was the early 90’s & people still thought that way, but they do.

There are many religions that teach that sex isn’t about having fun, it’s about having children.

So these religious minded people have brainwashed people (society) into thinking sex shouldn’t be fun & enjoyable which then of course contradicts how people feel about it when they do have sex or make love & it confuses them on some level.

Making love is one of THE most beautiful acts a human can have because it bonds us in such a way like no other.

Also you have to look at it from their other point of view, which is that you should ONLY have sex once you are married & that marriage is a contract between 2 people to build on that family.

Many moons ago people only got married to help support families or to build on their name AND that is still how it is in many different ethnicities & countries. Marriage never used to be about love. So basically they expected people to not have sex until marriage, & then only use it as a way to continue on the blood line. Sex was all very mechanical & controlling & this confused many people & of course they started to feel every time they had sex, that there was something wrong with it.

People who were at the top levels of these religions have been controlling human beings for thousands of years. They put fear into the people & when people weren’t intelligent enough to think for themselves (the majority is still not that intelligent), they just followed whatever their religion told them to do.

And since they didn’t want to seem like an outcast in society (if you were shunned back then, it was bad news), they just conformed to whatever the majority was saying or doing. People are still very much like this. They put on a face for their community & then only behind closed doors act as they truly are. It’s very sad to me.

This went on for years & years where people were too afraid to question what they were being told to do OR not to do. The people who scream the loudest, who make you think you are doing something wrong or what you are doing is fearful, usually end up winning the argument. People who are loving & free spirited usually don’t scream that loud because they just aren’t like that, so often times they get washed out & of course they aren’t part of the majority voice.

Religions have been telling people for YEARS, what is THEIR definition of moral & immoral & the bottom line is…

NO ONE can tell you what is right or wrong for you BUT YOU!

You are in control of your life no one else is, no other person, no other community, no so called religion, etc., BUT these people have you convinced & brainwashed into thinking that some faceless entity called god decides what is right vs. what is wrong & that’s just not true.

The way you can determine if something is right or wrong for you is this…

Does it make you happy? And I don’t mean just for 5 minutes, I mean does it REALLY make you happy & smile all over your body?

Does it leave you with your stomach feeling nauseous or does it give you a headache? Meaning, it’s making you feel like you are doing something wrong?

If you feel happy, than it’s a great decision for you at that moment in time. (remember, what makes you happy today isn’t always going to make you feel happy tomorrow. We all change & what we want in life changes & that’s fine, that’s part of life)

If what you are doing makes you feel shameful (not because other people are telling you this, but because YOU are feeling this), then it’s not a healthy choice for you.

But there in lies the question, does it make you feel shameful because you are still being brainwashed by religion & society EVEN if you are not religious? Or are you able to clearly think for yourself & decide that yes, it’s making me feel negative & therefore I better stop doing it.

Many non religious people still hold the same opinions as religious people because those opinions have been passed down in their family for centuries. They have been brain washed into having that belief, so my suggestion is to unbrainwash your mind & start with a clean slate. Start thinking for yourself no matter what the topic is.

And just so you know, the US is the WORST country when it comes to their judgments about the escort industry. Almost every other country (except most of the Muslim ones) allow the escort industry to exist in one way or another even if it’s not 100% legal.

Sorry for the long answer, but I had a point to make here :  )

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Why are pimp like people running escort services?

Friday, January 2nd, 2009

So here is my point of view on why pimp like people are running escort services.

Because, society is LETTING THEM.

The more society continues to be shameful of escort services & escorts, & ignores the fact that they exist & always will, the more criminal types will run the escort industry.

The results are always the same.

Any substance or service that society tries to make criminal, whether it was alcohol, weed/hash, etc. always continues to flourish, ESPECIALLY when you try to control people & tell them what to do with their lives.

Very few people like me have the balls to say “screw you”, I feel that I’m doing nothing wrong, & we go ahead anyway & make the best of it.

So, if you are one of those who judges others because you “want” to feel superior over others because of self shame, guilt or insecurity, take a good look in the mirror & take responsibility for your role in:

  1. underage prostitution,
  2. human trafficking,
  3. slavery,
  4. escort agency owners who force their escorts to sleep with them,
  5. cops who blackmail the escort agency owners,
  6. cops who blackmail escorts by forcing them to sleep with them,
  7. cops who ignore it when escorts are beaten up, raped, or killed,
  8. STDs transmitted because there is no protection for sex workers, or
  9. escort service owners who sit by playing Russian Roulette because they can’t talk to the escorts about protection, etc.

Instead of ethical professional business people taking the reins & being proud to open an escort agency, they are ashamed, frightened & don’t want to take a chance that they will be closed down.

A lot of the law makers (certainly not all), media & police (to me they are bullies) continue to judge the escort industry while some see escorts on the side. This isn’t just hypocrisy, these are people with a lot of power to throw people in jail while they see escorts in their private lives, OR their personal beliefs are hidden, meaning they don’t really have a problem with escorts or escort agency owners.

Some of these people of power put on an act for society while their acions contradict what they say out in public because of the mask they wear.

For some I feel sorry for them, for others I say “STAND UP & live your life for yourself & your beliefs, not for the rest of the world because you live in fear.” Only you can judge yourself, no one has such power over you unless you give it to them, so really the ones we think have the power are usually just too scared to be “real”. I feel for them that they can’t be true to themselves.

We’ve seen this kind of hypocritical behavior in history of course, & it still goes on today…

a) women who are raped & then blammed for what men do to her
b) gays who have to lie & hide all the while pretending to be straight

You may not agree that this is the same thing, but I see the huge similarities.

In order to help the escort industry, these people in power should be setting up new laws that have NOTHING to do with pimping. There should be clear laws that differentiate between pimps & escort service owners, & hookers & escorts. Escort serivces once & for all should be considered a business just like any other. You already see this in Australia, parts of Canada, Germany, Amsterdam, & parts of the UK is on its way.

Instead, the people who decide what’s important for society run around taking away perfectly good cops from their position of helping to solve violent crimes or crimes that hurt people, & they assign them to shutting down the open minded owners of escort agencies who are just business people, or they chase escorts who have chosen to live their lives as THEY see fit.

Then because the criminals use more covert seedy methods to run their businesses, they get away with continuing to run escort agencies, while the professional ethical business people are shut down because they wanted to run their escort service properly & they didn’t go underground.

This then puts escorts & the clients who see them in more danger because they are then forced to be involved with real criminals who may be violent, steal, blackmail, etc. I mean when you call up an escort agency, you have no way of knowing what kind of person is manning the company, right?

Do you think escorts or clients are ever going to stop just because you say so?

Who are you to tell others what to do with their lives?

People throw that “moral” word around very loosely pretending they have the right to control other people’s lives. They even try to use religion to hide behind & cause pain for others. (while this isn’t the only reason I don’t believe in religion & haven’t since the age of 12, it is one of THE main reasons I started to question religion even at that young age.)

You CAN’T control anyone but yourself! This is the Universal law.

The laws on the books when it comes to prostitution & pimps are archaic & most don’t even differentiate between a business person who runs an escort service, & a pimp who forces girls to work for him/her. In fact, there are no real laws for the escort industry, at least not in North America. These laws are soooo old, they go back to years when I was either a child, or not even born yet.

This whole abusive circle affectively helps escort agency owners who are sleazy to open up more escort services. Sleazy escort service owners who don’t really care about the escort industry, girls, or clients. They care only about money & using girls for their own personal gain.

While they may not be your average street “pimp”, they are very borderline.

Even now, some of the clients who see escorts are more sleazy, can be violent, have mental disorders, are drug addicts, alcoholics, stalkers, etc.


Because there aren’t many agency owners in place who will say NO, you are banned from my agency, your behavior isn’t tolerated.

Then what happens, is that escorts need customers – (they have to make money in order to make a living of course), & because the escort industry has been taking a beating in the past year or two, some escorts feel forced into seeing these criminal or dangerous types because the “normal” guy who wants to see an escort has gone underground. The nice customer either sees escorts less, or stops entirely to keep away from all the constant judgment, harassment or the stigma from society’s so called “moral” judgment.

The so called “powers that be” & religious fanatics are soooo proud of themselves, & in the end all they are doing is driving more criminals to run agencies. These types don’t usually have a problem breaking the law, they are usually already doing it in some other form like trafficking drugs, murder, extortion, etc. Then they may get into slavery – human trafficking.

The ignorance that if you just close down all the escort agencies, that “poof“, the escort industry will just disappear is very naive, & in my opinion, very dangerous.


Because most escorts start off working for an escort service.

The odd one goes right to working as an independent escort, but they are slim to none.

They need to build up their confidence in seeing clients, they need to learn the ropes, & some never want to be an independent escort because that takes a lot of hard work & a bit of a business head that not everyone has.

Then because there aren’t a lot of professional ethical escort services out there, a lot of escorts feel tied & end up working for the types of escort agencies I mentioned above.

The chances of them getting beaten or addicted to drugs or alchohol has now increased quite a bit since those agency owners won’t have any boundaries in place like a professional escort agency might.

The escorts need to feel secure that someone working in the office is protecting them. That was my goal when I ran my 2 escort agencies.

How can they feel this way if all they have to choose from are the “pimp” like escort agencies?

The bottom line is, if escort services were left alone to run a business like other businesses do & they were ONLY brought down if they committed other crimes like assault, fraud, kidnapping, coercion, etc., you would slowly start to see the escort industry clean itself up.

This certainly wouldn’t happen overnight, but because there wouldn’t be this constant fear in the escort industry, the law enforcement who really cares would start to get calls from both escort service owners, and escorts, divulging who the real criminals are.

We need new, fresh escort services that are run like how I ran my escort agency.

I protected ALL of my girls because that was my job.

I never forced a girl to work, & if I felt she wasn’t suitable to work as an escort, I would tell her to go home.

I treated all of my customers with respect.

I never judged them, & I never lied to them.

I was often told I was THE most professional escort agency in the city of Toronto which made me proud.

I was NEVER perfect & I had my faults, & I can tell you a lot of the stress I encountered was from sleazy criminal types.

The professional ethical types are the people you want running escort services.

I encourage anyone who cares about this industry not to give up, & not to let the bullies run your life for you.

If you want to be an entrepreneur who wishes to own an escort agency for all the right reasons, know that I applaud & support you.

We need more people like you running our escort services. smile

If you are an escort, know that I also support you.

Help me get rid of all the pimp style escort agencies out there who use & abuse escorts & the clients who see them.

Help me get rid of all the hookerish type escorts who don’t belong in the escort industry.

I will sign off on this post, but don’t worry, I will be back.

Thank you for listening!

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